A lot of things enhance the power of a woman: a sparking personality, quick wit, developed intellect, impeccable style… but above all, confidence is the best asset any woman could have. It can be one of her most powerful assets, all that other shit fades with time. Her confidence shows through everything. It speaks louder than her career, the shoes she wears, the places she travels, and sometimes even louder than the books she reads. It is reflected in the way she carries herself and the way she treats others.
So, what distinguishes a truly confident woman from one who is just trying too hard?
A confident woman holds high standards for who she allows in her life, both as friends and intimately. She knows her value and will not let anyone who drags her down into her circles. She does not settle for those who don’t deserve her time or attention. If someone brings drama or negativity to her life, she immediately realizes it’s time to cut them out, or at least lessen her time with them.
A confident woman recognizes herself and her talents as being unique and valuable. She utilizes her skills to advance herself in life and accomplish the goals she sets for herself. She does not to succumb to societal pressures of what she ‘should’ be like or ‘should do’ – she is her own person and not lose sight of her own worth just because someone else may not see it.
A confident woman is self-reliant and strives to learn new things. She grabs life by the horns every chance she gets. She fixes something that breaks in the house. A renaissance woman has no need to rely on anyone. She does not put herself in positions where she must be taken care of. She appreciates those who do things for her out of love because she knows it’s a sign they care for her, although she doesn't need them to. She does not let a man, or anyone, define her. A woman who relies on having a man in her life to define her self-worth will always be chasing after people, instead of realizing her value and letting them come to her.
A confident woman continues to be her loving, caring self, regardless of who appreciates it or who doesn’t. She is who she is because of her, not anyone else. If someone doesn’t value her, she understands it has more to do with them, and less to do with her. She does not let someone change her in this way. She does not allow herself to be changed by the actions of others. She is nice to others because of who she is, not because of who they are.
A confident woman is content with her own self-worth and the adoration of those who love her. She presents herself with cool, calm, and collected class. She does not feel the need to publicly compliment herself or chase after attention. She doesn’t need to seek validation from others in order to make her feel good about herself, and she understands the only true lasting confidence comes from within. And perhaps most of all, a confident woman knows what she wants.
A confident woman's purpose is to be authentically herself; no more, no less. When you start to applaud your fears, neuroses, and quirks, these qualities will suddenly become your best assets.
As for me, there's nothing that revives my confidence more than time alone. Wait, let me clarify that: time alone that I occupy with self-love. If I spend my alone time wallowing in misery, I perpetuate my insecurities. When I shower myself with love, I realign with my core values.
Know what you need to make this precious time with yourself the best time. There is nothing sexier than a woman who ADORES her own company.
Are you a confident woman or are you just trying too hard?
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